I recently got into a discussion with a close personal friend who was having a tough time dealing with confidence in social circles. I tried to explain to her that she just needed to suck it up and go introduce her self. Now that I have had some time to think about what she was going through I had a flash back to when I was in high school and I used to be a wall flower.
I used to watch the "cool kids" mingle and interact with each other and I would be sitting of watching and wanting someone to come over and include me in group. That was over 15 years ago. Yesterday I was invited to Memorial day BBQ by a woman that I am dating when I was faced with a similar situation of being the new kid on the block. I walked into the house following my lady friend to be confronted by a living room full of her family. She walked on ahead of me with out introducing me. Now when i was a teenager I would have froze but that is not who I am today.
I took the opportunity to loudly proclaim who I was and what my name is. I then walked up to everyone in the room shook their hand and introduced myself. This is what confidence means to me, it means never letting an awkward situation or your fears control you. Everyone is watching you and they want to know why they are paying attention, you have 15 seconds to make an impression.
What would you do?